Thursday, May 18, 2017

Hamilton Landmark Galleries Artist Jam Session - May 7th!


Harlems' Hamilton Landmark Galleries

Hamilton Landmark Galleries Artist Jam Session in Harlem! It was so great meeting talented artists creating beautiful music: This is what happens when you put a bunch of creatives together! Pure magic!!  (May 7, 2017)
















BENITA CHARLES MUSIC
"Spreading love through music for your inspiration and entertainment!"

 

Sunday, May 7, 2017

Singing Tips Live by Benita Charles - Tip #39


Benita Charles in New York City
  Singing Tips by Benita Charles - Tip #39



Your Image: Your Behavior

SELF CONFIDENCE

"One important key to success is self-confidence. A key to self-confidence is preparation." -- Arthur Ashe

In this episode, we discussed self confidence in all you do in life. Self-confidence will set you a part and attract success to you.

*Self-confidence is a feeling of trust in one's abilities, qualities and judgement.

Self-confidence is a set of behaviors you can improve and it's built from the outside in. You can improve your self-confidence by changing your behavior.

Self-confidence should not be confused with self-esteem.

**Self Esteem is an evaluation of one's own self-worth. In other words, self-esteem is how we feel about ourselves (it's built from the inside out). Based on where you are in your self-esteem, it can take years to repair and improve.

I. Here are 3 key ways to enhance your self-confidence:

A) Look the part
 -- Always look your best
 -- When you look good, you feel good (buy a new dress or suit. Get a new hairstyle.)

C) Act the part
-- Make your presence known in every situation
-- The way you sit and stand speaks volumes: sit up straight and stand tall
-- Look people in the eye when speaking
-- Speak slowly and deliberately
-- Be assertive and self-assured, not timid

D) Know your stuff
-- Study your industry and gain the knowledge you need
-- Practice your speeches, presentations, songs to perfection (Practice makes perfect!)
-- When you know what you're doing and what you're saying, it automatically makes you more confident

II. Fake It Til You Make It

***The purpose of this phrase is that by imitating confidence, competence with an optimistic mindset, it can lead to the realization of that imitation in an individual's life. In other words, acting as something can lead to that something.

Aristotle once said: "To be virtuous one must act as a virtuous person would act."

**** I read an article from a coach, John Sannicandro and he said that he once worked part time in a psychiatric ward. He discovered that the patients did well when they were exposed to positive behaviors (such as bedtime curfew, mandatory group attendance and structure). He found that structure, behavior and routines are the best ways to create positive change. This can definitely apply to positive behaviors to enhance your self-confidence.

References:

* Source: dictionary.com
** Source: Wikileaks
*** Source: "Fake It Til You Make It" mindbodycoarch.org (John Sannicandro)
**** Source: "Fake It Til You Make It" mindbodycoarch.org (John Sannicandro)

http://mindbodycoach.org/fake-till-make/

Here's another great resource in terms of enhancing your self-confidence: "25 Killer Actions to Boost Your Self Confidence" by Leo Babauta (zenhabits.net).
https://zenhabits.net/25-killer-actions-to-boost-your-self-confidence/

Best wishes to you as you take your voice to the next level!

Much love,

Benita Charles Music

"Spreading love through music for your inspiration and entertainment!"

http://benitacharles.com

Blog: http://singingtipsbybcm.blogspot.com

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/bcmsings/

Email: singingtips.bcm@gmail.com





Friday, May 5, 2017

Singing Tips Live by Benita Charles - Tip #38



 Benita Charles in New York City

 Singing Tips by Benita Charles - Tip #38

Your Image: Your Behavior (Self-Discipline)


"Do what you gotta do so that you can do what you want to do." -- Edgar Holley, Sr.

In this episode, we discussed self-discipline in terms forming successful habits for success. Self-discipline is one for the keys to success.

Growing up, I've always been a child who loved to play first (pleasure before pain). This has carried through my adult life.  It hasn't worked out too good.  It has lead to missed deadlines, missed opportunities and unnecessary stress. I've decided self-discipline is something I'd like to improve and master.

Here are 3 key ways to improve your self-discipline muscle:

1) Make a list of things that need to be done for the day

     -- Prioritize your list to the top 3 things that need to be done

2) Do the one thing from your priority list that will make the most impact on your life

    -- This will leave you with more time to do the things you want to do

3) Do it even when you don't feel like it (this is the key to self-discipline)

     -- This is the most difficult thing to do and this is the heart of mastering self-discipline.

      -- If you can push through those times when you don't feel like it, success is on the other side.

     -- Sometimes you need a swift kick in the rear-end to get the party started. Get it done!

Best wishes to you as you take your voice to the next level!

Much love,

Benita Charles Music

"Spreading love through music for your inspiration and entertainment!"

http://benitacharles.com

Blog: http://singingtipsbybcm.blogspot.com

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/bcmsings/

Email: singingtips.bcm@gmail.com






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